Thursday, August 13, 2009

What If I Dumped My Boyfriend But I Regret My Decision?

By Andyl Bergerl

One day you are dating your boyfriend who you love so much but then you notice some things in your bf that you have not noticed before. This something eventually drove you to conclusions that you may not like him anymore. But if you asked yourself, was it reasonable to break up with him just because of that small something?

There are things that a person will notice on their loved ones after spending some time with them. Things like traits and mannerisms come out naturally but now these traits and mannerisms bother you. It could be the way he slices his food, the way he behaves in situations and could even be a new haircut. These are little issues that drove you to breakup with him but after doing so, you realize your fault and then try to patch things up and all the things you have done to get him back failed. What needs to be done next?

To ask you, did you try leaving you ex boyfriend some time alone? I am certain that you did hurt his pride and feelings and may have humiliated him. If you have been trying to call him for hours and when he does not pick up his phone, then that is surely a sign that you must be giving him some space.

So instead of bombarding him with text messages and calls, give him some space and take a look at the real hidden reasons that might have caused you to wake up one morning with a dumped boyfriend.

Some girls have the tendency to test their relationship by several ways which includes breakups with their boyfriends. They do this to test if their boyfriend will fight for the relationship no matter what. However, if this is the real reason why you broke up with him in the first place is certainly wrong. Why are you testing your relationship when he is clearly in love with you? Is it him? Or is it really you who has a problem?

An individual who manipulates someones feelings can be suffering from confidence issues. A person with low self esteem must fight this tendency to manipulate someones feelings to assure something. You must change it because self confidence defines who you are and how you carry things. There will be times that you may think something negative about yourself so you must contest it. Look for ways to address the real problem and do not pin it to someone else.

To win back a dumped boyfriend you're going to have to clearly work on yourself. No self-respecting boyfriend wants to be around someone who is high maintenance and doesn't know her own mind. In future, make sure you're one hundred per cent sure about what you are doing and why you are doing it.

Instead of jumping to conclusions and then dump your boyfriend immediately, try sitting down with him and talk about your issues with the relationship. Doing it that way will make you more mature and your boyfriend will see that you are a rational person.

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