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Getting over strong feelings for your ex can be a very hard task to do. Even after a while your heart keeps longing for him/her, but on the other hand your mind tells you that getting back together may cause you unnecessary pain and sufferings.

No one can give you a definite answer to the question, "Should I get back together with my ex?" You have to find this answer inside of you. However, there are certain clues that can help you to make the right decision about whether you want to attempt saving this relationship or not.

You definitely don't want to get back with your ex if in the past he/she used violence or mental abuse. In this case, no matter how many promises this person is making, there is no sense in exposing yourself to the future possible danger.

Any promises that your ex partner is making, he/she should prove by actions, not by words. For example, if your ex has cheated on you several times during your relationship, there is a very high possibility that he/she will do it again. By giving him/her second, third... tenth chance you are setting yourself up for disappointment and heartbreak.

It is also not a good idea to get back with your ex boyfriend/girlfriend if you broke up a short time ago and still feel that your emotions are too tangled and complex to make a rational decision. Give yourself some time and space to think things over. Usually it is suggested that you take a months break for every year that you have spent together with your ex partner.

If after that time you will decide that you can meet someone better, then there is no point of getting back. But if you still feel strong incompatibility between the two of you and your ex feels the same way about you, you should definitely give your relationship a second try.

Sometimes we end the relationship under the influence of impulse, because we are tired of fighting or simply want to hurt another person. Later we can realize that we have made a mistake and that we still want to be with that person. In this case I suggest you discuss your feelings honestly with your ex and do everything possible to save this relationship!

Someone has once said that, light cannot exist without darkness, just like love cannot exist without a breakup. Only when we are apart with the beloved one, we can fully understand and appreciate the meaning of true love. If you still love your ex, don't let this beautiful feeling die, fight for it!