Tuesday, August 18, 2009

I Dumped My Boyfriend But Now I Want Him Back

By Andyl Bergerl

So you were dating a guy you really liked and then one day you noticed a tiny little issue about him that you didn't really like and you dumped boyfriend! Just like that! Out of the blue! But have you really dug down deep to try and understand why you dumped boyfriend?

There are things that a person will notice on their loved ones after spending some time with them. Things like traits and mannerisms come out naturally but now these traits and mannerisms bother you. It could be the way he slices his food, the way he behaves in situations and could even be a new haircut. These are little issues that drove you to breakup with him but after doing so, you realize your fault and then try to patch things up and all the things you have done to get him back failed. What needs to be done next?

To ask you, did you try leaving you ex boyfriend some time alone? I am certain that you did hurt his pride and feelings and may have humiliated him. If you have been trying to call him for hours and when he does not pick up his phone, then that is surely a sign that you must be giving him some space.

So instead of bombarding him with text messages and calls, give him some space and take a look at the real hidden reasons that might have caused you to wake up one morning with a dumped boyfriend.

Some girls have the tendency to test their relationship by several ways which includes breakups with their boyfriends. They do this to test if their boyfriend will fight for the relationship no matter what. However, if this is the real reason why you broke up with him in the first place is certainly wrong. Why are you testing your relationship when he is clearly in love with you? Is it him? Or is it really you who has a problem?

An individual who manipulates someones feelings can be suffering from confidence issues. A person with low self esteem must fight this tendency to manipulate someones feelings to assure something. You must change it because self confidence defines who you are and how you carry things. There will be times that you may think something negative about yourself so you must contest it. Look for ways to address the real problem and do not pin it to someone else.

You have to change first before you can present yourself again to your boyfriend. No guy wants to spend his time around someone that is controlling and a girlfriend that is out of control. In the future, try to be very sure before making any decisions and find reasons that are reasonable in doing so.

Instead of dumping the guy, why not sit and talk to him about your fears and your insecurities. He will think more of you if you are honest with him, rather than if you simply lash out on a whim and dump him for what appears to be no good reason.

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